Why I Write What I Write: Truth-Telling Without Shame
There’s something I want to say right at the start of this journey, before you dive into the raw, unfiltered pieces of my story that I’ll be sharing here.
Some of what I write will be honest to the point of uncomfortable. It will touch on family, relationships, betrayal, lies, and the kind of wounds most people prefer to keep hidden. And I know what some people might think:
“Isn’t that just airing dirty laundry? Isn’t that shaming?”
Let me be clear: I am not here to publicly humiliate anyone. I am not here to throw people under the bus. I am here for one reason and one reason only… to tell the truth of how God has moved in my life, even through the darkest seasons.
For years, I stayed silent. I swallowed my voice. I shrank myself down to fit into rooms that couldn’t hold the fullness of who God made me to be. But silence was never the call on my life.
From the very beginning, the Lord marked me as a voice, a Daughter of Thunder, and when He began to awaken me prophetically, He made it clear:
“Tell the story. Tell the truth. And I will use it to set captives free.”
The Bible says, “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body” (Ephesians 4:25). Truth isn’t always tidy. It doesn’t always come wrapped with a bow. But truth carries light, and light exposes what darkness wants to keep hidden.
At the same time, Scripture also instructs us to guard our tongues (James 1:26) and to “speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). That is the posture I am choosing. I am not here to slander or to dishonour. In fact, I wrestled deeply with the commandment to “honour your father and your mother” (Exodus 20:12). What does honour look like when relationships are toxic, manipulative, or abusive?
I came to realise that honour does not mean enabling. Honour does not mean silence in the face of lies. Honour means walking in truth, with integrity, and refusing to become complicit in deception — while still choosing to release bitterness and entrust justice to God.
So yes, these entries are raw. They’re vulnerable. They expose the kinds of dynamics many of us have endured behind closed doors but were too afraid to name. And yes, they will shine a light on how the Lord has used even betrayal, rejection, and trauma as tools of transformation in my life.
If you see yourself in these stories, I want you to know: you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. The very things the enemy tried to use to silence me have become the very testimonies God is asking me to release, so that others can recognise His voice in their own wilderness.
I’ve counted the cost of sharing this publicly, and I’ve chosen obedience over approval. Because at the end of the day, I don’t answer to the opinions of men. I answer to the One who called me, who rescued me, who anointed me, and who has given me a voice to roar.
Scripture to anchor this:
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbour, for we are all members of one body.” — Ephesians 4:25
“But speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ.” — Ephesians 4:15
“Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.” — Proverbs 13:3
“Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” — Exodus 20:12
This is not about shaming. It is about truth, healing, and obedience. And in telling the truth, I am stepping into the fullness of who God always intended me to be.
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Victoria Player is an emerging prophetic voice, spiritual disruptor, and single mother based in the UK. She is the founder of Daughter of Thunder—a raw, Spirit-led platform for awakening women and equipping the remnant. After walking through decades of emotional abuse, loss, and dismantling, Victoria now shares her unfiltered journey of healing, calling, and consecration. Through her writing, she calls the hidden ones out of silence and into bold, holy purpose.
