When the Drama Isn’t Yours: Understanding Prophetic People and Relational Fallout
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Editor’s Note: This journal entry addresses themes of prophetic calling, spiritual sensitivity and relational fallout. It is intentionally raw to honour the real experiences of those walking through awakening in its earliest stages.
There is a particular kind of exhaustion only prophets understand.
Not the tiredness of doing too much — but the bruising ache of being around the wrong people.
Because here is the truth I never saw clearly until God dragged it into the light:
Half of the battles I’ve survived were never mine.
They were borrowed.
Projected.
Imported.
Thrown onto me by people carrying spirits I was never meant to carry.
For years, I thought I was the common denominator.
The reason friendships imploded.
The cause of relational fallout.
The spark that ignited the explosion.
But now I see the pattern with a clarity that slices clean:
My life has always been peaceful until someone else enters it.
The storm doesn’t start in me — it starts around me.
When I walk alone, I thrive.
When I walk with the wrong person, hell wakes up.
This isn’t melodrama.
This is spiritual mechanics.
This is the anatomy of a prophetic calling.
The Peace of Isolation
I have always been happiest on my own.
Not lonely.
Not withdrawn.
Not hiding.
Just deeply, beautifully at peace.
When it’s just me and God, everything flows.
My spirit settles.
My home is calm.
My life has order, ease, clarity.
But when certain people enter my orbit — especially those who are broken, jealous, spiritually oppressed, manipulative, or carrying unhealed wounds — the atmosphere changes instantly.
I used to think it was coincidence.
Now I know it is calling.
The Boyfriend Who Wasn’t Alone in His Own Body
Years ago, I was dating a man who turned into something unrecognisable when he drank.
Two drinks in and I would watch the shift:
• his eyes changed
• his posture shifted
• his voice altered
• something else stood behind his expressions
• the air in the room thickened
He would pace.
He would glare.
He would provoke.
He would pick a fight no matter how calm I stayed.
I remember looking at him and thinking,
“This isn’t you. Something else just stepped in.”
I didn’t have spiritual vocabulary back then.
But I do now.
That wasn’t mood.
That wasn’t alcohol.
That wasn’t “stress.”
It was a spirit — an entry point opened through addiction and generational bondage.
My spirit discerned it long before my mind caught up.
Prophets recognise what others excuse.
The Friend Situation: Another Lesson in “Not Your Drama”
My friend was another example of this pattern — wrapped in different clothing.
He wasn’t malicious.
He wasn’t evil.
But he was:
• spiritually empty
• emotionally starved
• lonely
• dependent
• restless
• resentful of the life he never lived
• trapped in a religious system that worships suffering
And my presence exposed all of it.
Every time I stepped into his atmosphere, something in him cracked open — desire, dependence, longing, frustration, the ache of a life half-lived.
I didn’t create the turmoil.
I revealed it.
And the fallout I experienced didn’t come from me — it came from his:
• jealous children
• religious expectations
• fear of inheritance loss
• obsession with control
• suspicion
• inability to set boundaries
• idolisation of austerity
• resentment of joy
• unspoken desires
• fear of missing out on life itself
I didn’t bring the storm.
I walked into the storm, and the storm told on itself.
That’s what prophets do.
The Prophetic Pattern in Scripture
What I’m describing is not unique to me. It is biblical, ancient, and recognisable to anyone who carries a prophetic mantle.
Elijah
When he was alone, he had peace.
When he was around Ahab and Jezebel, chaos manifested instantly.
His presence exposed principalities.
Jeremiah
He carried grief that wasn’t his.
He felt the pain of a nation that had no language for its own sickness.
He bore burdens that were born in other people’s souls.
Joseph
His mere existence provoked hatred, envy, and slander.
His prophetic gift exposed the hearts of his brothers.
Jesus Himself
Solitude brought stillness.
Crowds brought manifestations.
Religious rooms erupted the moment He walked in.
Why?
Because prophetic presence disturbs whatever is not aligned with heaven.
The pattern is ancient.
It is consistent.
It matches my life exactly.
The Prophetic Diagnosis of My Life
Here is the truth I see now:
I do not attract drama because I create it.
I attract drama because I expose it.
People break around me because my spirit:
• reveals their lack
• exposes their motives
• uncovers their wounds
• disturbs their demons
• confronts their jealousy
• disrupts their illusions
• triggers their fear
• shines a light on what they’re hiding
Prophets are mirrors.
And mirrors provoke reactions.
Why Solitude Heals Me
When I’m alone, I’m not isolating — I’m recovering.
I return to my natural habitat:
• quiet
• revelation
• clarity
• obedience
• peace
I was trained in solitude.
I was formed in the wilderness.
I hear God best when the noise of others stops.
My mantle was never meant to be diluted by broken atmospheres.
Aloneness is not avoidance.
It is restoration.
Why Prophets Encounter So Many Broken People
Because our presence does what pastors, counsellors, and families often cannot:
We expose truth simply by existing.
I don’t have to confront anything.
I just walk into the room and what’s hidden rises to the surface:
• insecurity
• jealousy
• lust
• resentment
• bondage
• hidden motives
• generational spirits
• dysfunction
• fear
Not because I provoke it.
Because the mantle does.
This is why prophets often end up as the:
• stabiliser
• voice of reason
• emotional anchor
• spiritual discerner
• “problem solver”
• “one with the insight”
• one who sees what’s really going on
We aren’t cursed.
We’re called.
“A lion has roared — who will not fear? The Lord God has spoken — who can but prophesy?” ~ Amos 3:8
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not understood it.” ~ John 1:5
“My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” ~ Exodus 33:14
With fire and grace,
This message carries fire. Pass it on. 👇🏻
Victoria Player is the founder of Daughter of Thunder, a movement awakening spiritually sensitive women to truth, purpose, and divine power in a world that’s lost its compass. After walking through her own season of fire and rebuilding, she now writes and speaks to those who sense there’s more — guiding them from confusion to clarity, from awakening to assignment.
“I don’t bow to Babylon — I walk with the Lion.” — Daughter of Thunder
